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How do you State your Needs?

One of the experiences that lead me to create Self Care Housekeeping was a time when I was particularly depressed.

I was sleeping in the living room because the state of my bedroom just got too out of hand (along with the rest of the house). One day, I was laying on the couch. Not sleep, just staring into the creese between the couch cushions. It was the middle of the day and I had all the curtains drawn and the lights off. My mother called me repeatedly, but I couldn't bring myself to look at my phone, let alone answer it. So, I just laid there counting the rings until it finally stopped.

It wasn't long before my mom came barging through my front door. She lived around the corner and made good use of her spare key. While I still lay there, my mom asked with some concern and frustration, "Why aren't you answering your phone!?" After taking a look around, she then asked, "What's wrong with your house???" now with even deeper concern.

Without moving, I responded, "Ma, I'm depressed. I know my house is a mess. I know I need to wash the dishes and I know I know how. But right now, I can't figure out how to do that." It was like a light went off in my mom's mind. She responded, "O. I understand what you mean." From there, I was able to explain what I was struggling with and clearly state what I needed, which my mom proceeded to help with what she could - cleaning the house.

This moment was such a pivotal moment in my journey towards wellness and makes up part of the foundation of Self Care Housekeeping. It's not that my mother has never encountered me heavily steeped in depression before. This was the first time that I had the words.

Having the words to clearly and concisely explain what my experience and what my needs were was the line between support and continued despair and isolation. It's not uncommon for people to struggle with communicating their needs to those around us. The language barrier impedes, not only on our ability to access support from those who care about us, but also keeps us from establishing necessary boundaries for how we will and will not be treated by everyone in our lives (including ourselves).

We take boundary-setting seriously at Self Care Housekeeping for this reason. We even include it in our care. Because we know how poor boundaries are impacting your life, we've decided to offer our How to Set Healthy Boundaries training.

This training will kick off this Saturday, February 25, 2023 at 1:00pm and will be offered twice weekly through the month of March.

Once you realize how much poor boundaries are taking away from your quality of life, it will become imperative for you to attend this training and get the skills you need to get your boundaries in order.

The longer you wait, the more poor boundaries will cost you. Register today to unlock the skills needed to honor you!

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